Wednesday, April 20, 2011

The Psychology and Expressions of Relationships - 2!

It's Wednesday the 20th of April and I just heard a long long story of a friend's break up because her boyfriend was cheating on her. And apart from the usual pointless thinking too much on her part, there were certain useful things that she could have done to figure out whether he was cheating on her before she actually found out.
How you ask? Well through picking up on simple body language tells which may seem a little far-fetched and fairy tale like to most of you, it is surprisingly true! That too for everyone in the world, including animals for crying out loud!!
First of all to everyone whose not straight forward in asking any questions to their bfs or gfs, and rely on their usually self obsessed master plans to trick them into telling you the truth, drop that idea, don't waste time and brains on something that can be figured with just a simple question.
Imagine a conversation:
Boy: Have you cheated on me recently? (ASK THIS IF YOU FEEL IT HAPPENED, NEVER HOLD BACK)
Girl: No!! Why would I?
Girl: Yes, I am!

Now lets look at a normal convo:
Boy: What do you want for lunch?
Girl: Pizza! :)
Boy: Are you sure??
Girl: Yup!

The two conversations look similar, but the mood during them is completely different, so are the words chosen, and the expressions. When a person is lying, obviously they tend to defend themselves and stick to their part of the story. If the reply to, "Have you cheated on me recently?" would have been, "", then the person's probably telling the truth. But in our case she ends with a "Why would I?" question to put pressure back on her boyfriend. Obviously that doesn't happen in case of a pizza.

Now imagine you ask a friend, "What time did you wake up?" And the answer is, "Six." That is the truth! But if he says, "I woke up at six." That's probably a lie, because he's stressing on the fact by repeating your words. Similarly the reply to, "Are you sure?" is different in both conversations, and I hope you can tell the difference by now. :)

As for the expressions, "No, why would I?" will obviously be accompanied with a shake of the head. BUT, as soon as you ask your first question, watch her head! There will be the tiniest of nods subconsciously before the shake of the head. Most of you may not believe in it, but it everyone in the world!! Also imagine yourself lying, there's an awkward pause in a convo when you lie, and how many of you cover it up by scratching your ear or nose? Or inhaling loudly or doing something unusual? Well look for that "awkward pause" in your conversations too and see if he or she does one of those things.

Well I guess that's been one massive post, but trust me putting all that non-sense into words isn't easy. I will be writing up a little more on the expressions part of different conversations hopefully. And if any of you want the expressions to certain conversations, let me know by leaving a comment below. Thanks a ton for reading, as always keep your lies honest and the non-sense real. Cya around ;)