Tuesday, August 12, 2014

"I'm not like other people." - People

Disclaimer: This post may or may not be written under serious mood swings due to the death of Robin Williams causing severe alcohol abuse by the writer. (White wine. Never been a fan until quite recently)

We as human beings take great pride in being unique. We know that unless you're unfortunately handicapped, we're all born with two legs, two hands, a nose and two eyes. Or as a doctor once pointed out to me, "Two of everything by the side, one of everything down the middle."
We know we're similar in body structure but extremely different at heart, mind and soul. And we take great pride in being different from other people. We take great pride in being different and being someone who isn't easy to read and being unpredictable. But weirdly, people saying that they're unpredictable is perhaps the most predictable trait about human beings. 

We are, as people, 99% exactly the same. I recently had the privilege of attending a drama school with 16 other people from 13 different countries. I wanted to speak to each and every one of them, get to know about their cultures, their ideas how they think and the likes. One girl, who happened to be from Malta, on finding out that I wanted to know about people from Malta by talking to her said these exact words to me, "You won't find out what people from Malta are like by talking to me, I'm not a typical Maltese." And I'm a 100% sure she isn't. But think of this, imagine you are the person I spoke to. And considering that majority of my blog readers are from India, do any of you consider yourself a "typical Indian?" Probably not. And that's true for each and every one of you. Individuals will always take pride in being different, not being typical and being someone who stands out in a crowd. But so does everyone else. No one, not one will say, "Oh I'm a typically boring human being. Anything you need to figure out about me is very easy. I don't stand out in a crowd. I have no talents. People around me are loads better than I am." 

What's even more intriguing for me is that not only did I speak to that girl from Malta, I spoke to people from England, Ireland, Germany, Denmark, France, Korea, China, Cyprus, Turkey, Belgium and a couple other countries I can't even seem to remember right now. Each of them were different in their own right, but each of them being different and thinking they're different, thinking they have problems, thinking about certain things that make them happy, things that can only make them happy were true for each and everyone of them. They were similar in their differences. Similar in their diversity, similar in their uniqueness. 

And that (without wanting to generalise in any way what so ever), that means that all of us, regardless of where we are from or what we do, we are similar, we smile in our depression, sing when we think no one is watching, stop acting the fool when we realise people are looking. We think no one understands our pain, we think other people won't join in on our happiness the way we join in on theirs, we think, all modesty aside, we think we can make people feel better and make them feel stronger about themselves better than most people can. So think of this, if you were in the state of mind the other person is in, what would you want someone else to do? Just do that, because of the striking similarities in humans. 
If we realise our similarities lie in differences, not one would take their life out of depression. Not one would spend their lives trying to make people smile and not being able to smile themselves.

                                         *Returns to white wine and turns on Jumanji*